Finding Raylene

Finding Raylene

Posted by on Nov 12, 2013 in Community |

“To drag yourself from a deep, dark hole and to reach the top with a sense of relief and accomplishment is the best feeling in the world,” she said staring into the depths of past despair. “I don’t ever want to go back down that hole.”

 This is Raylene Thompson’s story.

As a single mom of four, two boys and two girls, Raylene lived life for her children. She attended school and worked a full-time job at Namerind Housing, working hard to provide a good life for her kids; one different than she had growing up.

“I was a very, very busy mom working and caring for my children, keeping the house, and making the money,” she explained. “Every morning I would wake up at 5 a.m. to get ready, to get the kids up, and get them to daycare.”

Life came to a standstill on Nov.1, 2006, when Raylene’s nine-year-old daughter, Ashlee, was killed.

Raylene tried hard to heal herself through grief counselling, but the loss of her daughter and the end of a relationship with Ashlee’s father took a toll on Raylene.

“After Ashlee passed away I was doing okay, but coming up to her 10th birthday on May 31 (2007), I started drinking,” said Raylene. “I used the alcohol to block off and ignore the pain and emotion; I didn’t want to feel any of it.”

“I wasn’t drinking every day, but that’s when it began,” she explained.

Raylene gradually began drinking more heavily and more often.

“I couldn’t cope,” she said. “I couldn’t keep holding on.”

hopeRaylene’s life slowly began to unravel as she fell deeper into the bottle.

“I started losing everything; I lost my job, I lost my house, and I starting losing my self-respect. I hated myself because I blamed myself for Ashlee’s death.”

In April 2008, Raylene lost her two youngest children to Child Protection Services. It was then that Raylene lost hope.

One year later, while living in Calgary, Raylene hit rock bottom.

“I was drinking every single day,” she said, almost in disbelief. “I did that for two and a half years.”

Raylene’s siblings saw the dangerous path she was travelling, and stepped in with an offer of help and hope. Raylene’s brother opened his home to her, under one condition – she could not drink.

“I quit drinking for six weeks, and went to a temp service and got a job. When I got that job I began to feel worthwhile again. I felt that everything was better. I felt my self-esteem and confidence come back, and it felt good. For once, I didn’t feel worthless like I did all those years after Ashlee passed away.”

Unfortunately, Raylene’s past demons returned to haunt her, and she lost her job, again due to drinking.

“I was getting so tired of losing everything because of the alcohol,” she said. “It finally clicked, I thought ‘heck with that crap, I don’t need to do this anymore.’”

On Jan. 10, 2012, Raylene met with counsellors at Sunrise Addictions Centre. On Jan. 16, 2012, Raylene began recovery, participating in a 28-day out-patient program, regular Alcohol Anonymous meetings, and a three-month Intensive After-Care Recovery program.

As she slowly became sober, Raylene began thinking more about her children.

“I wasn’t drunk anymore to brush those feelings aside and numb the hurt,” she explained.

In June 2012, Raylene returned to Regina. She slowly began to put the pieces back together, securing employment, attending Four Directions Community Health Centre, and mustering the courage to contact her social worker to begin the process of reuniting with her children.  .

“The initial contact with them was the scariest because I felt that I had betrayed them. I felt so guilty, and was so scared because I thought ‘what if they reject me?’”

Raylene began regular contact and frequent supervised visits with her children.

Raylene and her children were identified as suitable candidates for the Ranch Ehrlo Family Treatment Program, and so a referral was made to formally begin the reunification process.

“When I met with Patti Petrucka (the program’s director) I was afraid. I asked her, ‘What if I fail? What if I can’t do for the kids what they deserve or need from their mom?’ I was just so scared.”

After being admitted to the Ranch Ehrlo Family Treatment Program, Raylene began overnight visits with her children for one night per week. The visits gradually progressed to weekend visits, and shortly thereafter, the children were placed back into Raylene’s full-time care.

“I’m here now because of all of the help, encouragement, and support that Ranch Ehrlo has given me,” she said. “Involvement in the Family Treatment Program helped me transition to having my kids in my full-time care. It made it easier to adjust to living with one another after all those years.”

Family treatment workers worked with Raylene to provide her with parenting skills, coping skills, and information and resources to support her recovery and her family’s reunification.

“They offered help and suggestions because I couldn’t think quite like a family unit yet,” she explained. “It was hard to get back into the parent role; I could remember a lot, but it was a matter of practicing it and putting into play, making it work. I feel like if the Ranch wasn’t involved I may have failed.”

“Of course there are rough days,” she confessed, “but at the end of the day when I’m tucking my kids into bed, giving them their hugs and kisses, there is peace in my house and in my heart. I look around at everything I have now and it’s unbelievable. I’m living in a three-bedroom condo, I have my job back at Namerind Housing, I’m paying my own rent, my kids have cable, we have our own beds, our own sheets, and our own dishes. It’s just little things like that which remind me of how far I’ve come.”

“I learned a hard lesson, but now I know if anything difficult comes into my life again, there are programs out there, there are people out there, and there are places I can go for help,” she said.

“If you really want something you have to focus on that one goal, and for me that was getting my family back.”

Raylene and her children successfully completed the Ranch Ehrlo Family Treatment Program earlier this year. Their file will be closed with Child Protection Services on Nov. 26, 2013, upon approval.

“All is not lost, even if someone tells you it is,” said Raylene. “There is always hope.”

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50th anniversary celebration

50th anniversary celebration

Posted by on Dec 7, 2015 in Archived news |

Celebrating 50 years
Ranch Ehrlo Society was founded in 1966 by Dr. Geoffrey Pawson. This year we are celebrating 50 years of helping at-risk youth and families. We are celebrating clients like Raylene who overcame addiction and homelessness after the death of her child; the reunification of a father and his sons previously in care; and the resilience of Emilio who found stability after living in 21 foster homes before the age of six.

 

JeannetteCelebration fundraiser
Where: September 29, 2016 at the Queensbury Convention Centre, Regina

Cocktails: 5:30 p.m.

Dinner: 6:30 p.m.

Keynote speaker: renowned author, Jeannette Walls.

MC: Dr. Gordon Barnhart, an historian and recognized expert on the Canadian parliamentary process. He also served as Saskatchewan’s 20th Lieutenant Governor and in 2014 became a Member of the Order of Canada.

The celebration will support the work of our community services, including Ehrlo Sport Venture. Our community services are intended to make places of living, working, and playing better places to be. The services are available to the community free of charge or at the lowest fee possible.

Contact
Trudy Bosch
p:306-751-5684
f: 306-545-0060

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Family Treatment Program

Family Treatment Program

Posted by on Apr 20, 2011 in |

boy and motherFamily Treatment Program
The purpose of this program is to improve family safety, family functioning, and child well-being so families can remain together. The program works to either prevent the placement of children out of their home or to assist families to unite after having a child in care. Intensive in-home services are provided that assist the family in obtaining the knowledge, skills, and abilities to successfully reunify children to their care and include: counselling in child development, effective parenting, mood management, communication, life skills, budgeting, and how to access community resources. Children and youth will be linked to educational and childcare services as required.

 Program components:
• Full residential services for families including housing, food, and recreation.
• Family units located in Regina.
• Families are referred from various communities in Canada.
• Services to families are delivered by specially trained treatment staff.
• Length of treatment varies on family need.

Testimonials
“We are learning lots – how to control behaviours, temper tantrums, how to do more family activities and have fun and enjoyment,” said client Songgirl. “I learned how to not be a brick wall parent and not a jellyfish parent but to have a backbone.”

“I was tentative at first,” commented client Monti. ” But it’s good, I enjoy it. It’s helping me be a better person. My son pretty much ran the show before we came here.”

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Contact

Patti Petrucka, director at 306-751-2913

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